When everyone else knows the workout routines, the gym might look too challenging. Sometimes, you may feel as though you’ll never get as fit as others or wonder if maybe exercise isn’t really made for you. After training hundreds of clients, I believe what separates success from failure is not natural ability, but rather your attitude toward the whole thing.
The Psychology That Changes Everything
Researchers at Stanford University made a fascinating discovery about high achievers across different fields. They found that the most successful people shared a particular way of thinking - what psychologist Carol Dweck termed a "growth mindset." These individuals believe abilities can be developed through effort and practice, rather than being fixed traits you're born with.
I saw this firsthand with my client David, a 42-year-old accountant who initially told me, "I'm just not athletic." After six months of focusing on small, consistent improvements rather than comparing himself to others, he completely transformed not just his body, but his entire relationship with exercise. The change started in his mind before it showed in his physique.
Why Most People Quit Too Soon
The problem with traditional approaches to fitness is they often reinforce what psychologists call a "fixed mindset." This shows up when we believe our abilities are set in stone, that struggling means we're not cut out for exercise, or that other people's progress somehow reflects on us. These beliefs create a dangerous cycle - when progress inevitably slows (as it does for everyone), we interpret this as personal failure rather than a normal part of the journey.
That’s the reason why many people get excited in January and abandon their goals by March. They aren’t a problem with motivation or discipline - they just think in ways that could bring disappointment.
The Growth Mindset Advantage
Adopting a growth mindset changes the game completely. It means understanding that skills develop through practice, that challenges are opportunities to learn, and that everyone's fitness journey looks different. The research backs this up - a 2023 study in the Journal of Health Psychology found that people with growth mindsets were more than twice as likely to stick with exercise programs long-term.
But what does this look like in real life? It starts with small shifts in how we talk to ourselves about fitness. Instead of saying "I can't do this," we add one powerful word: "yet." Simply bucketing the outdated side as “legacy” shows what is wrong today but still opens up room for upgrades in the future.
Concrete Means to Improve Your Growth Mindset
An important approach is to consider other ways to label progress. Instead of thinking weight loss or your best time is the goal, try to value coming to workouts, using good form and picking healthy foods. Reaching these small steps ensures you will achieve lasting effects.
Finally, you need to practise being comfortable with feeling uncomfortable. If you feel your workout is hard, try thinking "This is what happens when we get better." Don’t think you’re losing when you feel your muscles burning during exercise - it’s actually your body getting stronger.
After every workout, spend some time thinking about what went on. Ask if anything helped you, what you want to enhance in the future and what you understand about your body.Session by session, your lessons will help you develop, not just appear on your schedule.
Above all, don’t be influenced by how people around you compare. The fitness influencers you see on social media have different genetics, schedules, and sometimes chemical assistance. The most meaningful point of comparison in life comes from your growth since yesterday. Keeping a training journal helps track your personal progress over weeks and months.
The Science Behind Lasting Change
What kinds of changes does your brain go through when you respect yourself? When we approach problems by being curious, instead of fearful, it releases dopamine, the chemical responsible for motivation. Every time you keep working through difficulties, you stimulate your brain, growing new connexions and thickening the coating around frequently travelled brain circuits.
The more you practise this, the more easily it becomes second nature. What starts as conscious effort eventually turns into automatic thinking patterns. That's why the clients who embrace this approach tend to maintain their fitness habits for life, not just for a few months.
Real People, Real Transformations
Sarah is a perfect illustration of what I’m talking about. At first, she told me she was very scared of the gym. Every small achievement along the way and enthusiastic celebration of progress meant she lost 40 pounds and could help others fighting their own fears as a certified fitness instructor.
Then there’s James, who was supposed to never run because of injuries he had before. His first marathon came after he spent a few years walking and gradually improved. There was a lot of hard work behind these results, all based on the proper attitude.
Your Personal 30-Day Challenge
Ready to put this into practice? Here's a simple framework to get started. For the first week, just notice your self-talk. Every time you think "I can't," add that magic word "yet." In week two, identify three non-scale victories from your workouts. Week three, do one thing that scares you - maybe trying a new class or slightly increasing your weights. By week four, reflect on how your perspective has already begun to shift.
Healthy for the Run
A healthy growth mindset isn’t limited to achieving achievements - it helps you form a positive and lasting connexion with fitness over the years. When you give up the search for immediate solutions and begin focusing on your efforts, you see something truly impressive happen. After a while, exercise turns into something you value, enjoy and learn from.
Professionals are seldom born that way; they too started out as learners. Champions all begin at the beginning just as anyone else. It’s not about being perfect on your fitness journey; it’s about sticking with it. If you are caring and supportive, you’ll see how your body is capable of much more than you imagine. As you progress, both your load and the effort needed for a run will become easier, because it’s you who is changing.
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